28 November 2026 / Shangri-La Rasa Ria, Kota Kinabalu

Ian & Phy

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A morning by the sea

Ten years ago, a spark.Ten years later, we found our way home.

Save the date for Ian and Phy on 28 November 2026 in Kota Kinabalu

Until the celebration

28.11.2026 / Shangri-La Rasa Ria, Kota Kinabalu

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Our story

Ian and Phy's story

Ian and Phy holding each other beneath the palms at Rasa Ria
01 / First spark

Ten years too early

We met in Kota Kinabalu ten years ago. We got along easily and there was something between us from the start. But the timing was not right. We were still at the beginning of our own stories.

Ian twirling Phy beside the beach at Rasa Ria
02 / The years between

Becoming, apart

Life took us in different directions, but we stayed friends. Phy built The Honor Clothing, travelled and discovered more of herself along the way. Ian followed the pull to build beyond KK, working across different cities, cultures and communities. They shaped the people we would eventually become for one another.

Ian and Phy sharing a table with their community ten years ago
03 / The way home

Same friends. Same table.

Whenever we came home, we somehow ended up around the same people, the same tables and the same familiar conversations. Our families, friends and community kept us close, even when life was moving in different directions. The connection between us never really disappeared.

Ian and Phy looking up together at Rasa Ria
04 / Home, after all

The question, answered

After all the cities, building and searching, home started to mean something different. On a mountain in Japan, Ian asked and Phy said yes. Home was no longer just the place we returned to. It became the life we wanted to build together, close to family, rooted in faith and surrounded by the people we love. This time, the timing was right.

Ian lifting Phy beneath a tree in the golden light at Rasa Ria

The proposal

This was the moment.

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Event Details

A wedding day in Kota Kinabalu.

Shangri-La Rasa Ria event pavilion beside the sea
Rasa Ria pavilion
Aerial view of Shangri-La Rasa Ria beach and resort coastline
Resort coastline

Blessing ceremony

Family, faith and the moment we begin.

Cocktail hour & mingling

Drinks, photographs and hellos by the sea.

Luncheon

Lunch, speeches and music together.

End

A little time for the sea before the evening.

A note from us

Thank you for making the journey to celebrate with us.

Please join us from 10:00 AM for a little time together before the blessing ceremony begins at 10:30 AM. We cannot wait to share this day with you.

Shangri-La Rasa Ria, Kota KinabaluThe exact venue details will be included in your formal invitation.
Watercolour portrait of Ian and Phy in colourful coastal garden attire

Dress code

Colourful Coastal Garden Cocktail

Florals, pastels and joyful colours are warmly encouraged. Dress elegantly, but comfortably, for a garden luncheon by the sea.

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Ian and Phy's illustrated colourful coastal garden cocktail guide

For ladies

Flowy midi or maxi dresses, floral dresses, colourful baju kurung, kebaya, resort-style dresses, pastels or bright colours.

For men

Linen shirts, light suits, smart trousers, pastel shirts, batik or relaxed blazers. Avoid looking too office-formal or too casual.

Colours & shoes

Pink, coral, yellow, sage green, sky blue, lavender, peach, floral prints and tropical prints. Block heels, wedges, flats or dressy sandals are better than thin heels if there is grass.

Getting there

Allow extra time for the drive north from central Kota Kinabalu.

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Save your seat for the celebration.

Please send one RSVP per invitation group. Your response is saved directly to Ian and Phylicia's RSVP list.

Attendance

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Ian and Phy sitting together by the Rasa Ria beachIan and Phy sitting together beside the wide beach at Rasa Ria

Stay with us at Rasa Ria

Close to the celebration.

Wake up by the sea, join us for the morning, and stay close for the after party later that night.

Wedding guest rateWe have a special wedding rate. Message Ian or Phy for the booking link.
Garden Wing guest room at Shangri-La Rasa Ria
Garden Wing

Easy resort living

Comfortable rooms close to the pools, gardens and main resort facilities.

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Ocean Wing balcony and oversized outdoor bathtub overlooking the sea at Shangri-La Rasa Ria
Ocean Wing

More space by the sea

Junior suites with private balconies, oversized outdoor bathtubs and Ocean Wing privileges.

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Ian lifting Phy beneath the trees at Rasa RiaIan lifting Phy by the Rasa Ria beach

Ian & Phy

28 November 2026 / Shangri-La Rasa Ria, Kota Kinabalu